how to use a dildo

So, you just got your first dildo and you want to know how to use it. I get it – they can seem intimidating at first! But don’t worry, I’ve learned a lot through trial and error so I’m here to share some of my top tips and tricks with you.

First tip: lubrication. Lots and lots of lube! This will make the experience much more pleasurable and comfortable. I recommend using a water-based lubricant since this is compatible with silicone dildos. Silicone lube can actually degrade the silicone so be sure to avoid that!

Second tip: don’t rush into insertion. It’s important to go slow at first and really get yourself ready. Use your fingers to explore and make sure you’re in the right frame of mind before bringing your dildo into the mix! A clitoral stimulator can be great to help get yourself aroused and relaxed before insertion.

Third tip: try different positions. Doggy style is a great way to start since it gives the most control and makes the environment seem less intimidating. But don’t forget you can also use dildos differently in different positions. Experiment with incorporating dildos into different positions, like missionary, woman-on-top, and spooning, to create different sensations!

Fourth tip: explore the speed and depth. Different speeds and depths create completely different sensations. With a partner, you can also experiment with teasing and gradually going faster and deeper for different kinds of pleasure.

Fifth tip: enhance your experience! Most dildos are good on their own. But there are a lot of different toys, like cock rings, that can enhance the experience. So don’t be afraid to experiment and find what works best for you!

Sixth tip: communication. Don’t forget, communication is key! Make sure to communicate with your partner throughout the experience and let them know what feels good and what doesn’t.

And finally, seventh tip: have fun! Above all, make sure you have fun and give it a try. With a bit of practice, you’ll soon find that using a dildo isn’t nearly as intimidating as it seems!

Now that you have the basics down, you can explore more advanced techniques to get more out of your dildo. One great way to spice things up is to incorporate temperature play into the mix. Warm and cool dildos can add a bit of extra fun to the experience! I love freezing dildos in the freezer to make them cold, and then using them during play for some extra tingly sensations. Or, if you’re feeling bold, you can even try dipping your dildo in a bowl of hot water for delightful heat sensation.

Another way to really experiment with your dildo is to use it with a harness. Many folks use a harness to create a seamless experience with a partner. And if you want to take things a step further, look into the world of strapons. With strapons, you have control of your dildo’s movements and possibilities for positions really open up.

Last but not least, don’t forget about dual stimulation! If you’re looking to really maximize your pleasure, using a vibrator at the same time can do wonders. There are lots of toys out there that combine dildos and vibrators into one package so you can get both types of pleasure in one go!

These are just a few tips for spicing up your dildo experience. But the best thing to do is explore and do whatever feels best to you. Try different things and use your own imagination to come up with something that feels empowering and really enhances your pleasure. After all, discovering our pleasure is a wild and exciting journey, so go ahead and make the most of it!